01 Apr The Path to Happiness in Three Simple Steps
Life can be difficult at times.
Things go wrong, everything’s a worry.
It’s very easy to lose hope and let it all get on top of you.
Then, a few months later, with the benefit of hindsight you look back and wonder what you were worried about.
But hindsight doesn’t give you that time back to enjoy on reflection.
So, how can you be happy and enjoy life even in challenging situations?
We can’t control the world, or other people, or life’s events. So there’s no point trying.
What we can control is what we think and how we respond to the world around us.
Do we let it get us down or do we choose to look for the positives?
How we respond to life is our choice, which means that happiness is a choice.
The three simple steps below will give you a new positive perspective on life – whatever’s happening:
- Don’t take yourself too seriously. When we can laugh at our own mistakes and misfortunes, they suddenly don’t seem so bad. What’s happened has happened, we can’t change it, but we can learn from it. We can’t predict the future, so why waste valuable time worrying about something that may not happen? Remember, you’ve survived everything that’s happened in your life so far
- Regularly step out of your comfort zone. Wanting to feel safe and secure is a powerful human instinct. Which is why we love comfort zones. The big problem with comfort zones though is that they shrink around us until we’re terrified of experiencing anything we don’t like. But, just because we don’t like something doesn’t mean we can’t bear it and it certainly doesn’t mean we should waste precious time worrying about it. When we step out of our comfort zone, we prove to ourselves how strong and resilient we really are – and that makes us happy
- Perform random acts of kindness. When we’re unhappy we focus inwardly on ourselves and obsess on our concerns. An easy way to snap out of this unhelpful mind state is to perform random acts of kindness. As Mark Twain said, ‘kindness is a language the blind can see and the deaf can hear’. When we’re kind to other people, it’s a sure sign that we’re not thinking about ourselves, and that we’re looking out at the world around us. The wonderful thing about a random act of kindness, is that whilst the recipient will feel good, you’ll feel even better